Ukuhlupha abanye akupheleli nje ekubetheni abanye emzimbeni. Kunokuquka nezi zinto zilandelayo. • Ukugezela abanye.

UCeline ona-20 uthi: “ Amantombazana anokuthetha amazwi ahlabayo. Andinakuze ndiwalibale amagama awandibiza ngawo nezinye izinto awazithethayo. Andenza ndaziva ndingento yanto. Akwaba ayesuke andibetha kunale into.” • Ukungabi nazitshomi. UHaley ona-18 uthi: “ Abany’ abantwana endihamba nabo isikolo baqalisa ukungahambi nam. Babengafuni ndihlale nabo ngexesha lesidlo, nto leyo eyabangela ukuba ndihlale ndodwa unyaka wonke.

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Ndandisitya ndodwa yaye ndikhala.” • Imiyalezo ehluphayo oyithunyelelwa ngefowuni okanye ngekhompyutha. UDaniel ona-14 uthi: “ Ungayixhola nje kabini okanye kathathu ikhompyutha, ulingcolise igama elihle lomnye umntu—okanye ubomi bakhe. Kusenokubonakala ngathi ndiyazibaxa izinto, kodwa le nto inokwenzeka!” Usenokuthunyelelwa iifoto ezikuhluphayo okanye imiyalezo ongayithandiyo kwiselfowuni. Nazi izinto ezidla ngokuba ngunobangela. • Nabo bakhe bahlutshwa. Umfana oselula ogama linguAntonio uthi: “ Ndazixelela ukuba kwanele, andizukuyinyamezela into yokuphathwa kakubi ngoontanga bam, ngoko nam ndaqalisa ukuhlupha abanye ukuze ndamkeleke kwiintanga zam.

Ekuhambeni kwexesha ndayicinga le nto ndaza ndayibona indlela engafanelekanga ngayo!” • Abanabantu abanokujonga kubo njengemizekelo emihle. Kwincwadi yakhe ethi Life Strategies for Dealing With Bullies, uJay McGraw uthi: “ Amaxesha amaninzi abantu abahlupha abanye, badla.. I doser mp3 pack torrent download.

Ngokubona kwindlela abazali, oosisi noobhuti babo okanye amanye amalungu entsapho ababaphatha ngayo abanye.” • Bazenza ngathi babhetele kunabanye—kodwa akunjalo. Kwincwadi yakhe ethi The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander, uBarbara Coloroso uthi: “ Abantwana abahlupha abanye bazenza bhetele kunabanye. Leyo yindlela abayifihla ngayo intlungu yabo nokuziva bengelutho.”. UKylie uthi: “ Abantu abahlupha abanye bayafuna ukubona ukuba yenzekile into ebebeyifuna xa bekugezela ukuze uzicaphukele. Ukuba akubahoyi, bayakuyeka.” IBhayibhile ithi: “ Isilumko siwugcina uzolile [umoya waso] kude kuse ekupheleni.”—.

• Musa ukuziphindezela. Ukubuyisa isixhiba kudala ezinye iingxaki, akuziphelisi. IBhayibhile ithi: “ Musani ukubuyisela ububi ngobubi nakubani na.”—. • Musa ukuzifaka engxakini.

Cezela kude kangangoko kunokwenzeka kubantu okanye kwiimeko ezinokubangela ugezelwe.—. • Yenza into ongakhange ucingelwe kuyo. IBhayibhile ithi: “ Impendulo, xa inobulali, isusa umsindo.”—.

• Yiba liqhula. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntu ukugezela ngokuthi utyebile, suka nje wena uthi: “ Yho, kuza kufuneka ndihle.” • Suka nje uhambe. UNora ona-19 uthi: “ Xa uthula, loo nto ibonisa ukuba ukhulile kunaloo mntu ukuhluphayo yaye uyakwazi ukuzibamba—zinto ezo angenazo yena.” • Zithembe. Intombazana egama linguRita ithi: “ Abantu abagezayo bayakubona xa ungazithembanga yaye banokwenza kuphele naloo ntwana yokuzithemba ubunayo.” • Xelela omnye umntu.

Ngokutsho kolunye uhlolisiso, abantu abangaphezulu kwesiqingatha ababa ngamaxhoba okuhlutshwa ngemiyalezo ethunyelwa ngekhompyutha abayixeli loo nto, mhlawumbi kuba besoyika ukuhlazeka (ngokukodwa abantwana abangamakhwenkwe). Kodwa uze ukhumbule, abantu abakugezelayo bayaphumelela xa uzifihla izinto abakwenza zona. Ukuxela kunokuba linyathelo lokuqala lokuphelisa lo mkhwa.

“Ukuhlupha abanye kuyingxaki enzulu. Kwisikolo endandifundisa kuso, imilo yayibakho naseklasini—nkqu naphakathi kwabantwana abafunda u grade 3! Abanye abantwana bayaphumelela xa begezela abanye kuba loo nto ibenza bazive bengoosaziwayo yaye belawula abanye. “Amaxesha amaninzi, amaxhoba arhuqa iinyawo ekuxeleni ngenxa yokoyika ukuphinda ahlutshwe ngumntu ogezayo okanye ajongwe ngabo afunda nabo njengeempimpi. Kwakhona amaxhoba asenokucinga ukuba akukho nto inokwenziwa. Sekunjalo, ndiye ndimbongoze umntu ohIutshwa ngabanye ukuba athethe. Kufanelekile ukwenjenjalo, yaye unokukhuselwa omnye umntu xa kusenziwa loo nto.”—UJenilee, owayesakuba ngutitshalakazi kwezinye zezikolo zaseUnited States.

Yinyani okanye Bubuxoki • Akuyonto intsha ukuhlutshwa kwabantu. • Ukuhlupha abanye yintlonti nje engeyongozi. Yinto engenamsebenzi kangako.

• Eyona nto ibhetele onokuyenza ukuze unqande umntu okuhluphayo kukuphindisa. • Ukuba abanye bayakugezela, loo nto ibangelwe nguwe. • Abanye abantu abakhe bahlutshwa nabo baye bahluphe abanye. • Ukuba ubone umntu egezela omnye, into engcono kukwenza ngathi awuboni. • Abantu abahlupha abanye basenokuzenza bhetele, kodwa amaxesha amaninzi baziva bengakhuselekanga. • Abantu abasoloko begezela abanye banokutshintsha.